So, last night we took our kids to their very first "live" baseball game. We happen to live very close to a minor league baseball stadium and thanks to the awesome lunch deal at Subway this month we managed to score four box seats on the first base line for only six dollars. As a family we are avid Red Sox fans- the kids sit and watch the games on television with us so we thought it was time for them to see a ball game up close and personal.
Our neighbors grabbed up their own Subway special and together we all headed out to the ballpark, gloves in hand.
Did anybody know that cotton candy- air blown sugar- is $4.00 a bag? Never mind the $3.75 for hot pretzels, $6.00 for hot dogs and $4.50 for a soda! But, we agreed before we went that since this was our vacation we would allow the boys to have the true ball park experience and eat expensive junk food and get sick to their little stomachs as they stay up way too late!
It was worth every single penny.
Watching the wonder on my five year old's face as he saw the stands and the giant light poles and the brightly lit scoreboard for the first time was truely priceless. Having my eight year old tell me that he really loves baseball and wants to finally play a team sport was also priceless.
I like baseball games- always have. When I was young and my dad sort of hoped his first born might have been a boy or at least a "tom boy", we sat for hour after hour watching the poor NY Mets struggle to save face and not lose EVERY game. As a teenager I often attended minor league games in Rochester, NY with my summer camp. And now, I have officially bonded over stadium food in a brightly lit ballpark with my own boys.
Taking the time to explain to them the game the same way my father did for me was one of those never forget bonding moments.
All in all, it was a completely awesome experience.
I am actually excited that they have both chosen to play little league this fall despite the fact that it will mean one heck of a crazy schedule for me for two months.
Today we went school clothes shopping to take advantage of Virginia's tax free weekend. While I stood outside the changing room as my boys tried on each article of clothing (they don't need me in the changing room any more!) I chatted with another mother who had two little girls that were also trying things on. As usual I was experiencing the sharp sense of nostalgia over the fact that we were trying on jeans and polo shirts instead of cute little skirts and dresses.
And then I thought of the joy and excitement on my boys' faces the night before as they experienced something every little boy should experience at least once and I realized that I was exactly where I was meant to be, mother of the two little boys I was meant to raise.
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Thursday, August 4, 2011
Hope Springs Eternal
Last night I was playing on the floor with my little nephew and he momentarily forgot the rules of play with Auntie- you know the ones where we don't hit or throw things. He got so excited over the game we were playing where he pit a rubbermaid pitcher on his head that he waved his arms wildly and threw the pitcher make dead on contact with my nose. I don't think I have to tell any of you just how much that REALLY hurt. That old expression about seeing stars? Yeah, its true.
As I sat on the living room floor too dazed to move, my husband brought me a frozen water bottle (beach ice pack!) to hold on my already swelling nose. My little nephew, not even a year and half old was so concerned he kept circling me where I sat and stopping to hug me every few seconds. One time he even kissed my nose and said "sorry"- something I had never heard him say. The best part though was when he observed me holding the frozen bottle to my nose and he went off to search the house returning with another empty bottle fromt he recycling that he held up to the other side of my nose!
This morning my nose hurts like hell and it is red and swollen but I keep thinking about the sweet innocence of little man as held the empty bottle against my face.
Already he is capable of feeling remorse.
I can't tell you how much hope this gives me for the world that we live in!!
In a world where people can kill their children with no remorse and little punishment, I wonder sometimes what has become of the moral fiber of human beings in general.
Is it a product of upbringing? Or a genetic defect?
When a student tells a teacher to F--- Off, I have to wonder where in their teenage minds did they decide that it was OK for them to say that to an adult- or anyone for that matter.
I used to say I would never bring a child into this world. It actually frightened me to consider raising a baby in a place where I can not even let them play inthe yard without fear of some one taking them from me. When we moved into our current neighborhood, my husband ever the cop ran a sex registry check on some public access site on the internet. Imagine my surprise when there were five registered sex offenders with a couple of miles of here. Of course, sex offender might just mean a ticket for urinating in public but still- it is unnerving.
The Casey Anthony trial had most of the country on the edge of their seats anticpating her guilty verdict yet somehow she was pronounced innocent. A woman's child is missing for days and she delays reporting it when I go into a panic if I can't see my kids in the backyard because the pool is in the way?
Every night my husband and his colleagues hit the city streets only to find two yearsolds playing in the street at 2 am. Really? My kids have been asleep for 6 six hours by two in the morning!
Last night's news mentioned a man who actually packed a loaded gun into a suitcase and attempted to get on a plane yesterday. In these post 911 days did he REALLY think he would make it through x-ray machines and metal detectors with even a heavy belt buckle on? IS it really such a great idea to test the FAA like that?
And what about homegrown terrorists? Is the United States really such a terrible place to live? I mean, despite the debt ceiling and bipartisan disagreements that almost threw us into default over politcal agendas?
Even worse, I think I might have even heard that one of our own elected officials may have called Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords a member of the cracked heads club or something to that effect. The woman was shot in the head by a deranged sniper at a community gathering. I don't care who you are or what party you belong to- her recovery has been miraculous and her trip to congress on the day the debt deal was voted on was monumental. I watched the videos, I shed a few tears of my own. That is one strong woman and I can only hope to match her strength of character and determination.
I am not a political fiend. Sometimes I can not even watch the news for weeks at a time because I like living in a sheltered state of denial. I am, however, as I have stated many times before, fiercely patriotic, a big believer in our freedoms and a die hard supporter of our military.
I am also a bit of a dreamer- I am holding out hope that there is still enough good out there, enough remorse even, to get our nation and the rest of the world back on track The military knows that there is strength in numbers. Perhaps instead of being constatnly divided on so many issues, the people of America should finally band together on the important stuff and set the example we have always been so proud to be.
As I sat on the living room floor too dazed to move, my husband brought me a frozen water bottle (beach ice pack!) to hold on my already swelling nose. My little nephew, not even a year and half old was so concerned he kept circling me where I sat and stopping to hug me every few seconds. One time he even kissed my nose and said "sorry"- something I had never heard him say. The best part though was when he observed me holding the frozen bottle to my nose and he went off to search the house returning with another empty bottle fromt he recycling that he held up to the other side of my nose!
This morning my nose hurts like hell and it is red and swollen but I keep thinking about the sweet innocence of little man as held the empty bottle against my face.
Already he is capable of feeling remorse.
I can't tell you how much hope this gives me for the world that we live in!!
In a world where people can kill their children with no remorse and little punishment, I wonder sometimes what has become of the moral fiber of human beings in general.
Is it a product of upbringing? Or a genetic defect?
When a student tells a teacher to F--- Off, I have to wonder where in their teenage minds did they decide that it was OK for them to say that to an adult- or anyone for that matter.
I used to say I would never bring a child into this world. It actually frightened me to consider raising a baby in a place where I can not even let them play inthe yard without fear of some one taking them from me. When we moved into our current neighborhood, my husband ever the cop ran a sex registry check on some public access site on the internet. Imagine my surprise when there were five registered sex offenders with a couple of miles of here. Of course, sex offender might just mean a ticket for urinating in public but still- it is unnerving.
The Casey Anthony trial had most of the country on the edge of their seats anticpating her guilty verdict yet somehow she was pronounced innocent. A woman's child is missing for days and she delays reporting it when I go into a panic if I can't see my kids in the backyard because the pool is in the way?
Every night my husband and his colleagues hit the city streets only to find two yearsolds playing in the street at 2 am. Really? My kids have been asleep for 6 six hours by two in the morning!
Last night's news mentioned a man who actually packed a loaded gun into a suitcase and attempted to get on a plane yesterday. In these post 911 days did he REALLY think he would make it through x-ray machines and metal detectors with even a heavy belt buckle on? IS it really such a great idea to test the FAA like that?
And what about homegrown terrorists? Is the United States really such a terrible place to live? I mean, despite the debt ceiling and bipartisan disagreements that almost threw us into default over politcal agendas?
Even worse, I think I might have even heard that one of our own elected officials may have called Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords a member of the cracked heads club or something to that effect. The woman was shot in the head by a deranged sniper at a community gathering. I don't care who you are or what party you belong to- her recovery has been miraculous and her trip to congress on the day the debt deal was voted on was monumental. I watched the videos, I shed a few tears of my own. That is one strong woman and I can only hope to match her strength of character and determination.
I am not a political fiend. Sometimes I can not even watch the news for weeks at a time because I like living in a sheltered state of denial. I am, however, as I have stated many times before, fiercely patriotic, a big believer in our freedoms and a die hard supporter of our military.
I am also a bit of a dreamer- I am holding out hope that there is still enough good out there, enough remorse even, to get our nation and the rest of the world back on track The military knows that there is strength in numbers. Perhaps instead of being constatnly divided on so many issues, the people of America should finally band together on the important stuff and set the example we have always been so proud to be.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
The Complexities of the Emotional Meltdown
I would first like to apologize for my long absence. It was brought to my attention today that there are a few readers out there who actually tune into my wit and wisdom regularly and that I might be letting those readers down by ignoring my blog. So, here I am, hoping to find my groove once again.
All in all, it has been a pretty tough week for me. I wasn't feeling well physically but more importantly I was not myself mentally or emotionally.
It all started with a major meltdown while at dinner with my sister and her family on Monday night. As I sat at our favorite restaurant trying to decide between a chicken sandwich and the chicken tender platter I started crying. Completely out of left field, no lead up, no emotional breakdown, just a steady flow of tears on my laminated menu.
Unable to explain my emotional response to deep fried, breaded chicken, I forced my emotions back into the tightly sealed box I usually hide them in and went on to have dinner with the family. I didn't even give in to the tears when I realized that nearly every television in the place was broadcasting the New York Mets.
For those of you who don't know- the Mets were Dad's favorite baseball team and we spent many hours watching games in my youth.
Thinking all I needed was a good night's sleep, I went to bed early that night only to spend hour after hour tossing and turning plagued by nightmares of people I love being hurt or worse. It wasn't my best night.
The rest of this week was much of the same- sleepless nights plagued by dreams that would make great horror novels and days without energy, way too much emotion and several crying breakdowns. I did what needed doing but lets just say I am way behind on the damned laundry again.
I did however indulge in several hours of Ty Pennington and his home make over program. Each time I watched a heart wrenching episode I would cry my eyes out and tell myself it was because of the show.
Last week, my cousin started a blog in which she is telling a story of her own about her struggle to find her way in a medical situation that is laden with legalities and severe trauma to her health. I am so proud of her for taking back the control of her life by telling her story and I hope she continues to explore writing as an outlet for her emotions and a means of reaching others who also struggle with life altering circumstances out of their control the way that she does. In her third entry she mentioned me as her inspiration for writing because she sees me as being a strong woman not afraid to share my stories. I was so flattered and so thankful that anything at all that I have to say might help even one person.
And then I started to cry again.
I really didn't feel like the emotionally strong woman that she believed me to be this week while I was crying over chicken tenders and television reruns.
In fact, I was pretty much convinced that I was out of things to say and for someone who likes to talk as much as I do this was pretty unbelievable.
I began to think I was a big fake and that ultimately I was going to let my cousin down when she saw the "real" me.
Like I said it has been a pretty tough week for me.
Miracle of all miracles I actually slept six solid hours last night with absolutely no nightmares. Refreshed and feeling like myself once again, I realized I still have plenty to say!
Every day is a challenge for me- not just balancing a family of four on two meager civil service paychecks to trying to be the best mother and wife I can but to try and accept and love myself for who I am. Some days I look in the mirror and smile and admire my long hair or my green eyes. Other days I stand there and scowl and wish I hadn't looked. I want more of the first kind of days. I want to always like what I see and be satisfied with who I am. I want the confidence of my baby sister and the relaxed, self acceptance that my husband has always had.
I don't really know what happened to me this week. Maybe I had a few hormones out of whack or my brain went on hiatus, I don't really know. I am just glad that it is over.
All in all, it has been a pretty tough week for me. I wasn't feeling well physically but more importantly I was not myself mentally or emotionally.
It all started with a major meltdown while at dinner with my sister and her family on Monday night. As I sat at our favorite restaurant trying to decide between a chicken sandwich and the chicken tender platter I started crying. Completely out of left field, no lead up, no emotional breakdown, just a steady flow of tears on my laminated menu.
Unable to explain my emotional response to deep fried, breaded chicken, I forced my emotions back into the tightly sealed box I usually hide them in and went on to have dinner with the family. I didn't even give in to the tears when I realized that nearly every television in the place was broadcasting the New York Mets.
For those of you who don't know- the Mets were Dad's favorite baseball team and we spent many hours watching games in my youth.
Thinking all I needed was a good night's sleep, I went to bed early that night only to spend hour after hour tossing and turning plagued by nightmares of people I love being hurt or worse. It wasn't my best night.
The rest of this week was much of the same- sleepless nights plagued by dreams that would make great horror novels and days without energy, way too much emotion and several crying breakdowns. I did what needed doing but lets just say I am way behind on the damned laundry again.
I did however indulge in several hours of Ty Pennington and his home make over program. Each time I watched a heart wrenching episode I would cry my eyes out and tell myself it was because of the show.
Last week, my cousin started a blog in which she is telling a story of her own about her struggle to find her way in a medical situation that is laden with legalities and severe trauma to her health. I am so proud of her for taking back the control of her life by telling her story and I hope she continues to explore writing as an outlet for her emotions and a means of reaching others who also struggle with life altering circumstances out of their control the way that she does. In her third entry she mentioned me as her inspiration for writing because she sees me as being a strong woman not afraid to share my stories. I was so flattered and so thankful that anything at all that I have to say might help even one person.
And then I started to cry again.
I really didn't feel like the emotionally strong woman that she believed me to be this week while I was crying over chicken tenders and television reruns.
In fact, I was pretty much convinced that I was out of things to say and for someone who likes to talk as much as I do this was pretty unbelievable.
I began to think I was a big fake and that ultimately I was going to let my cousin down when she saw the "real" me.
Like I said it has been a pretty tough week for me.
Miracle of all miracles I actually slept six solid hours last night with absolutely no nightmares. Refreshed and feeling like myself once again, I realized I still have plenty to say!
Every day is a challenge for me- not just balancing a family of four on two meager civil service paychecks to trying to be the best mother and wife I can but to try and accept and love myself for who I am. Some days I look in the mirror and smile and admire my long hair or my green eyes. Other days I stand there and scowl and wish I hadn't looked. I want more of the first kind of days. I want to always like what I see and be satisfied with who I am. I want the confidence of my baby sister and the relaxed, self acceptance that my husband has always had.
I don't really know what happened to me this week. Maybe I had a few hormones out of whack or my brain went on hiatus, I don't really know. I am just glad that it is over.
Friday, July 22, 2011
What of The World We Live In
It is so hot here today that it I am amazed that my home has not spontaneously combusted under the intensity of the southern sun. At six in the morning we were at a balmy 80 degrees so I set the air conditioner for icy cold, covered the upstairs windows with blankets to black out the sun and waited for the heat wave to settle in over us.
A couple of hours later I cranked the air conditioner in the car and met my sister for a quick wedding dress fitting. Five of us (and two car seats!) crammed into my little Ford Focus and set out for North Carolina when my amazing seamstress friend lives and where our repsective dresses are being altered. It was hot but not too bad at that point. A quick stop at the pediatrician for a case of swimmers' ear and a middle ear infection in my oldest boy and a longer stop at Wal Mart for antibiotics led us into the hottest part of the day. I am so grateful for two zone air conditioning right now!
Of course, since the heat wave is currently settled over most of the nation, I suppose I don't really need to tell many of you how hot it is here. From what I understand, you all are suffering as much as we are!
So, like most of you probably are, we are bunkered down inside a dark house waiting for the jet stream to shift and give us a little relief.
I have spent more hours in the past few days than I like to think about watching reruns of Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Aside from my infatuation with Ty Pennington, the show really gets to me. The families that are protrayed have been through some unbelievable stuff. My family has been through incredible things as well but let me tell you, that as bad as things got, there is and was always someone out there who is worse off.
Lately I have been feeling that familiar sadness over not being able to have a daughter. I go through the usual gamut of emotion anger, sadness, frustration and finally resignation and wonder why it is that I have gone through what I have when there are people out there who don't even want the babies they are blessed with. A couple of weeks ago, a teenager in a nearby city gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby that she promptly stabbed to death and hid in a closet. My husband was told by a woman on a call he responded to recently that if he could take all her kids, she didn't want any of them. A couple of months ago a couple was found to have a six year old daughter locked in a makeshift cage fashioned from her crib and a piece of plywood nailed to the top. She was starving and covered in feces.
People throwing away babies in the trash, giving them away without a thought and caging them like animals.
What exactly is this world coming to?
I would give anything to have each of those six babies lost to me over the years. Each one of them was a child that my husband and I will never see grow and flourish as human beings and individuals. My heart cries for them constantly yet so many children go unloved in this world every day.
We have given alot of thought to adoption. I would take in a dozen children if I could- if the system would let me. Have you ever "priced" the "cost" of adoption? International adoptions can run as high as twenty or thirty thousand dollars and domestic adoptions are pretty close to that as well. Not to mention the fact that we are not wealthy people and apparently love and caring and support don't mean quite as much as a hefty paycheck.
I struggle regularly with the decisions I have made in my life and I wonder sometimes if I made all the right choices. I could be a wealthy pediatric oncologist, saving lives every day or a revered forensic scientist putting killers and other violent offenders in prison. Instead I pick through people's trash in search of hidden treasures, I teach high schoolers the one science (chemistry) that NO ONE ever wants to learn and I move from paycheck to paycheck hoping to be able to put a little bit away each pay period for a new pool.
Am I giving my children the best possible start in life or am I shortchanging them?
I question constantly whether I am a good mother or a decent wife or an effective teacher.
Today at Wal Mart I met up with an old student. He was actually a young man that was in my very first block of my very first semester of my very first year at the school I work for. I just completed my sixth year there so that means he is about to become a senior in college. He told me that he is only one year away from becoming an English teacher. He was so proud of himself when he shared this news with me that I could help but share in his excitement. I realized later that it is these little things that make me realize that at least that decision- to become a teacher- was a good one.
A couple of hours later I cranked the air conditioner in the car and met my sister for a quick wedding dress fitting. Five of us (and two car seats!) crammed into my little Ford Focus and set out for North Carolina when my amazing seamstress friend lives and where our repsective dresses are being altered. It was hot but not too bad at that point. A quick stop at the pediatrician for a case of swimmers' ear and a middle ear infection in my oldest boy and a longer stop at Wal Mart for antibiotics led us into the hottest part of the day. I am so grateful for two zone air conditioning right now!
Of course, since the heat wave is currently settled over most of the nation, I suppose I don't really need to tell many of you how hot it is here. From what I understand, you all are suffering as much as we are!
So, like most of you probably are, we are bunkered down inside a dark house waiting for the jet stream to shift and give us a little relief.
I have spent more hours in the past few days than I like to think about watching reruns of Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Aside from my infatuation with Ty Pennington, the show really gets to me. The families that are protrayed have been through some unbelievable stuff. My family has been through incredible things as well but let me tell you, that as bad as things got, there is and was always someone out there who is worse off.
Lately I have been feeling that familiar sadness over not being able to have a daughter. I go through the usual gamut of emotion anger, sadness, frustration and finally resignation and wonder why it is that I have gone through what I have when there are people out there who don't even want the babies they are blessed with. A couple of weeks ago, a teenager in a nearby city gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby that she promptly stabbed to death and hid in a closet. My husband was told by a woman on a call he responded to recently that if he could take all her kids, she didn't want any of them. A couple of months ago a couple was found to have a six year old daughter locked in a makeshift cage fashioned from her crib and a piece of plywood nailed to the top. She was starving and covered in feces.
People throwing away babies in the trash, giving them away without a thought and caging them like animals.
What exactly is this world coming to?
I would give anything to have each of those six babies lost to me over the years. Each one of them was a child that my husband and I will never see grow and flourish as human beings and individuals. My heart cries for them constantly yet so many children go unloved in this world every day.
We have given alot of thought to adoption. I would take in a dozen children if I could- if the system would let me. Have you ever "priced" the "cost" of adoption? International adoptions can run as high as twenty or thirty thousand dollars and domestic adoptions are pretty close to that as well. Not to mention the fact that we are not wealthy people and apparently love and caring and support don't mean quite as much as a hefty paycheck.
I struggle regularly with the decisions I have made in my life and I wonder sometimes if I made all the right choices. I could be a wealthy pediatric oncologist, saving lives every day or a revered forensic scientist putting killers and other violent offenders in prison. Instead I pick through people's trash in search of hidden treasures, I teach high schoolers the one science (chemistry) that NO ONE ever wants to learn and I move from paycheck to paycheck hoping to be able to put a little bit away each pay period for a new pool.
Am I giving my children the best possible start in life or am I shortchanging them?
I question constantly whether I am a good mother or a decent wife or an effective teacher.
Today at Wal Mart I met up with an old student. He was actually a young man that was in my very first block of my very first semester of my very first year at the school I work for. I just completed my sixth year there so that means he is about to become a senior in college. He told me that he is only one year away from becoming an English teacher. He was so proud of himself when he shared this news with me that I could help but share in his excitement. I realized later that it is these little things that make me realize that at least that decision- to become a teacher- was a good one.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Trash Picking - Reduce, Reuse and Recycle At It's Very Best
I took a few days off from blogging to work on some other projects that desperately needed doing. I finally sat down and made the curtains for the boys's room I had been sitting on for about three years. I am slowly cleaning out drawers and closets and corners and toy boxes. I spent some time on my current manuscript project and I actually put in a few hours on my summer curriculum writing job. I am throwing a bridal shower at my house on Monday- my baby sister is getting married (!)- and so I am attempting to make the shabby furniture more like shabby chic and finding ways to dress up an otherwise pretty standard middle class home.
We are big recylcers around here. My husband and the boys save aluminum in a big gray tub to turn in to the aluminum factory and now a days we have way more stuff in the big blue barrel than the big brown one. The majorty of our furniture has been plucked out of someone'e refuse or taken from people looking to get rid of something they consider useless. The only rule I have is that I will not take anything that has fabric or cushions- too many issues these days with bedbugs and other little lovelies. However, if its a good piece of wood anything, it's mine!
Lucky for us we were fortunate enough to move into a neighborhood full of trash pickers just like us! It's like a sport around here. If you see something you like, you better move fast or it will be gone! My most recent acquisitions were a large cast iron skillet and a wood quilt rack. My husband has come home with wood for projects, tools and a host of other guy stuff, Just yesterday my neighbor was telling me how she has been scouring trash for an old screen to fix the screening in her door. Like a good recycling neighbor, I gave her the piece from my screen door that was torn on the bottom half and she put the rest of it to good use!
I am not what one would called a "tree hugger" or an "earthy crunchy" or any of the other derogatory names out there for people who just really believe in their cause. I am by all accounts frugal- and often extremely cheap- but my reasons for rescuing the gently used and previously loved come from somewhere else. I have always been able to look at something- an old house, a scratched piece of furniture- and see it for what it could be not as what it is. I love to imagine all the things I could do to make the house or furniture or piece of fabric or whatever beautiful again. I attribute this to my dad and the many hours I spent working with him on his side remodelling jobs. He saw beauty and promise in old things and had a vision that was even more beautiful when it came to fruition. Now, I unfortunately am often hampered by my budget and not every dream is realized but I do what I can.
When we first moved to VA, we looked at this house that we fell in love with instantly. It was well over a hundred years old, had a "historic" designation and was slated for demolition if someone didn't buy it soon. We have these companies down here that will buy up properties from people just looking to get rid of them usually way below market value. This home was owned by one such company.
Now let me be completely honest- the place was a wreck overall. It was the mother of all projects. But it had so many beautiful pieces of architecture and capentry in it that all the two of us could see was the restored beauty just waiting to be resurrected. We wanted that house so badly!
By the time we had finished touring it, we had all the plans made- what we could do ourselves, what needed to be contracted out and we were literally salivating.
An inspector told us what needed doing and it pretty much matched with what we already knew so we were ready to go.
Until the company selling it decided that they could take us for a ride.
No matter how we negotiated with them, they wouldn't work with us on a price. They had a rediculous number in their head and they would rather knock the place down then sell it to us for what it was really worth.
To this day- seven years later- I am still broken hearted over it. We sometimes still drive by the lot and sit in the car and bemoan the loss of a small piece of history. As of our last visit the land sat empty and unsold.
We live in a day and age of glitz and glamour. Talk of new houses, new cars, new televisions, new toys is rampant. Why buy a "used" house when you can build a big, shiny new one? Used cars have too many "problems" and who doesn't have a flat screen TV these days? (We don't, just so you know!)
What if we felt this way about people? Old, used ones go out with the weekly trash? Or do we just recylce them for use later on?
Our resources are finite. Once the oil is gone, its gone. Unless more trees are planted than are harvested, they too will be gone. Our ancestors understood this. They took only what they needed from the Earth to survive and they never wasted anything. Ever heard of a 19th century trash dump?
Today I challenge you all to join me and my wonderful neighbors in the sport of trash picking. Find one item somewhere that is destined for the trash and breathe new life into it. A coat of paint, a layer of polish and you might be very surprised at the beauty just waiting to be discovered. You won't be disappointed.
We are big recylcers around here. My husband and the boys save aluminum in a big gray tub to turn in to the aluminum factory and now a days we have way more stuff in the big blue barrel than the big brown one. The majorty of our furniture has been plucked out of someone'e refuse or taken from people looking to get rid of something they consider useless. The only rule I have is that I will not take anything that has fabric or cushions- too many issues these days with bedbugs and other little lovelies. However, if its a good piece of wood anything, it's mine!
Lucky for us we were fortunate enough to move into a neighborhood full of trash pickers just like us! It's like a sport around here. If you see something you like, you better move fast or it will be gone! My most recent acquisitions were a large cast iron skillet and a wood quilt rack. My husband has come home with wood for projects, tools and a host of other guy stuff, Just yesterday my neighbor was telling me how she has been scouring trash for an old screen to fix the screening in her door. Like a good recycling neighbor, I gave her the piece from my screen door that was torn on the bottom half and she put the rest of it to good use!
I am not what one would called a "tree hugger" or an "earthy crunchy" or any of the other derogatory names out there for people who just really believe in their cause. I am by all accounts frugal- and often extremely cheap- but my reasons for rescuing the gently used and previously loved come from somewhere else. I have always been able to look at something- an old house, a scratched piece of furniture- and see it for what it could be not as what it is. I love to imagine all the things I could do to make the house or furniture or piece of fabric or whatever beautiful again. I attribute this to my dad and the many hours I spent working with him on his side remodelling jobs. He saw beauty and promise in old things and had a vision that was even more beautiful when it came to fruition. Now, I unfortunately am often hampered by my budget and not every dream is realized but I do what I can.
When we first moved to VA, we looked at this house that we fell in love with instantly. It was well over a hundred years old, had a "historic" designation and was slated for demolition if someone didn't buy it soon. We have these companies down here that will buy up properties from people just looking to get rid of them usually way below market value. This home was owned by one such company.
Now let me be completely honest- the place was a wreck overall. It was the mother of all projects. But it had so many beautiful pieces of architecture and capentry in it that all the two of us could see was the restored beauty just waiting to be resurrected. We wanted that house so badly!
By the time we had finished touring it, we had all the plans made- what we could do ourselves, what needed to be contracted out and we were literally salivating.
An inspector told us what needed doing and it pretty much matched with what we already knew so we were ready to go.
Until the company selling it decided that they could take us for a ride.
No matter how we negotiated with them, they wouldn't work with us on a price. They had a rediculous number in their head and they would rather knock the place down then sell it to us for what it was really worth.
To this day- seven years later- I am still broken hearted over it. We sometimes still drive by the lot and sit in the car and bemoan the loss of a small piece of history. As of our last visit the land sat empty and unsold.
We live in a day and age of glitz and glamour. Talk of new houses, new cars, new televisions, new toys is rampant. Why buy a "used" house when you can build a big, shiny new one? Used cars have too many "problems" and who doesn't have a flat screen TV these days? (We don't, just so you know!)
What if we felt this way about people? Old, used ones go out with the weekly trash? Or do we just recylce them for use later on?
Our resources are finite. Once the oil is gone, its gone. Unless more trees are planted than are harvested, they too will be gone. Our ancestors understood this. They took only what they needed from the Earth to survive and they never wasted anything. Ever heard of a 19th century trash dump?
Today I challenge you all to join me and my wonderful neighbors in the sport of trash picking. Find one item somewhere that is destined for the trash and breathe new life into it. A coat of paint, a layer of polish and you might be very surprised at the beauty just waiting to be discovered. You won't be disappointed.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Has it Really Been 20 Years??
This is the weekend of my 20th high school reunion. Unfortunately I was unable to make the trip back to my little hometown in upstate New York to join in the festivities. From what I understand there is a weekend full of opportunities for long ago friends to catch up on where their lives have taken them and I am a bit disappointed that I was unable to join in the fun. As I sat here this afternoon looking at some of the pictures that are starting to make their way on FaceBook, I find myself squinting at faces and wracking my brain to place names with faces.
Everyone is an adult now!!!
For twenty years my memories of my graduating class were as we were as teenagers. Now I look at these grown up versions of everyone and it strikes me just how much can happen in twenty years' time. I know I for one have gone through several careers, earned two college degrees, gotten married, had two wonderful little boys, bought four cars and moved to three different states. And it seems like only yesterday that I crossed that stage in the hockey rink/communtiy center/war memorial building and accepted my high school diploma!
Now I watch my own son go off to his little "nerd school" as we affectionately call his summer enrichment program and have begun to plan for his future.
Every one always say that they want more for their children than they had. I am no different. I never made it to Cornell like I spent years dreaming for so now I have a new dream- my son will attend Virginia Tech and become a world class building engineer! OK, maybe I need to give him a little say in this but I figure if I start planting the seeds now....
My youngest child informed me yesterday in no uncertain terms that he will one day drive a police car and be a police man just like Daddy. He even wants to work at night like his father. This is not the first time he has told me this and from what I understand my husband made up his mind for a life of civil service as soon as he could vocalize the words so I am prepared for at least one of my children to follow in daddy's bootsteps.
When I was five like my own baby I wanted to be a grade school teacher. When I was thirteen I wanted to be a pediatric hematologist oncologist (yes, I was that specific!). When I graduated high school twenty years ago, I never wanted to get married, I did not want children and I was going to cure childhood leukemia. By my senior year of college I thought forensic science was pretty cool and went on to get my MS in that so I could finally solve the Jon Benet Ramsey case. Then I met this guy who wanted to be a cop who I didn't really like but agreed to go out with just once so he would leave me alone. Three years later we were married and thinking about a family. Someone offered me the chance to teach a chemistry class and I thought "Why not?"
A few years later we decided we had had enough of the cold New England winters and now we are "Beach People"!
I wonder how many of my fellow classmates, who were so certain of their future paths on the day we said goodbye to old GRB for the last time have found themselves in some distant land or a different part of the country doing something they love so different from what they thought they loved? That's what I will miss the most this weekend is hearing everyone's stories.
I did not love high school- I will not even try to lie about that. I was awkward in social situations, lacked self confidence and was not at all athletic or even the least bit coordinated. I got picked on terribly on the school bus and didn't date much. I skipped the ten year reunion and resisted joining Facebook for years because I was pretty certain that no one was interested in what had become of me.
I was still viewing things through the eyes of a teenager.
As a much older adult now I see things differently. I wonder if we weren't all a bit awkward socially. As a high school teacher I have learned that teenagers are nasty to each other as a general rule- it must be all those raging hormones- so I realize now that I was probably not the only one getting picked on on the school bus. As I finally gave in to the social networking craze a couple of years ago, friend requests starting popping up daily and I realized that more than one or two people might actually have remembered me. I am far more confident and happy with myself in my thirties than I ever imagined I could be in my teens or even my twenties. I have found all these hidden talents I didn't know I had, I have some of the best friends anyone could ever be lucky enough to know and I have one heck of a great life going on here.
So, I wish just the tiniest bit that I was able to make it to the reunion this year. There are so many people that I would like to talk to, to find out what paths their lives have taken them on and to hear all the wonderful things they have accomplished. I hope that you all have a terrific time getting reaquainted in ways that social networking doesn't allow for- with face to face conversations, a little bit of "remember whens" and a whole lot of fun, well-wishing and congratulating.
Twenty years is both a long time and a mere drop in the bucket of time. As we graduated from high school twenty years ago, the valedictorian and salutatorian gave speeches about the great things we were off to accomplish and the opportunities available to us and we all sat in our chairs, fidgeting with anticipation just waiting to get out of there and on with our lives. I hope that each and every one of my classmates has found their lives to be full of blessings and love and great things. I promise that I will do my very best to make the next reunion- 25 years maybe?
Everyone is an adult now!!!
For twenty years my memories of my graduating class were as we were as teenagers. Now I look at these grown up versions of everyone and it strikes me just how much can happen in twenty years' time. I know I for one have gone through several careers, earned two college degrees, gotten married, had two wonderful little boys, bought four cars and moved to three different states. And it seems like only yesterday that I crossed that stage in the hockey rink/communtiy center/war memorial building and accepted my high school diploma!
Now I watch my own son go off to his little "nerd school" as we affectionately call his summer enrichment program and have begun to plan for his future.
Every one always say that they want more for their children than they had. I am no different. I never made it to Cornell like I spent years dreaming for so now I have a new dream- my son will attend Virginia Tech and become a world class building engineer! OK, maybe I need to give him a little say in this but I figure if I start planting the seeds now....
My youngest child informed me yesterday in no uncertain terms that he will one day drive a police car and be a police man just like Daddy. He even wants to work at night like his father. This is not the first time he has told me this and from what I understand my husband made up his mind for a life of civil service as soon as he could vocalize the words so I am prepared for at least one of my children to follow in daddy's bootsteps.
When I was five like my own baby I wanted to be a grade school teacher. When I was thirteen I wanted to be a pediatric hematologist oncologist (yes, I was that specific!). When I graduated high school twenty years ago, I never wanted to get married, I did not want children and I was going to cure childhood leukemia. By my senior year of college I thought forensic science was pretty cool and went on to get my MS in that so I could finally solve the Jon Benet Ramsey case. Then I met this guy who wanted to be a cop who I didn't really like but agreed to go out with just once so he would leave me alone. Three years later we were married and thinking about a family. Someone offered me the chance to teach a chemistry class and I thought "Why not?"
A few years later we decided we had had enough of the cold New England winters and now we are "Beach People"!
I wonder how many of my fellow classmates, who were so certain of their future paths on the day we said goodbye to old GRB for the last time have found themselves in some distant land or a different part of the country doing something they love so different from what they thought they loved? That's what I will miss the most this weekend is hearing everyone's stories.
I did not love high school- I will not even try to lie about that. I was awkward in social situations, lacked self confidence and was not at all athletic or even the least bit coordinated. I got picked on terribly on the school bus and didn't date much. I skipped the ten year reunion and resisted joining Facebook for years because I was pretty certain that no one was interested in what had become of me.
I was still viewing things through the eyes of a teenager.
As a much older adult now I see things differently. I wonder if we weren't all a bit awkward socially. As a high school teacher I have learned that teenagers are nasty to each other as a general rule- it must be all those raging hormones- so I realize now that I was probably not the only one getting picked on on the school bus. As I finally gave in to the social networking craze a couple of years ago, friend requests starting popping up daily and I realized that more than one or two people might actually have remembered me. I am far more confident and happy with myself in my thirties than I ever imagined I could be in my teens or even my twenties. I have found all these hidden talents I didn't know I had, I have some of the best friends anyone could ever be lucky enough to know and I have one heck of a great life going on here.
So, I wish just the tiniest bit that I was able to make it to the reunion this year. There are so many people that I would like to talk to, to find out what paths their lives have taken them on and to hear all the wonderful things they have accomplished. I hope that you all have a terrific time getting reaquainted in ways that social networking doesn't allow for- with face to face conversations, a little bit of "remember whens" and a whole lot of fun, well-wishing and congratulating.
Twenty years is both a long time and a mere drop in the bucket of time. As we graduated from high school twenty years ago, the valedictorian and salutatorian gave speeches about the great things we were off to accomplish and the opportunities available to us and we all sat in our chairs, fidgeting with anticipation just waiting to get out of there and on with our lives. I hope that each and every one of my classmates has found their lives to be full of blessings and love and great things. I promise that I will do my very best to make the next reunion- 25 years maybe?
Friday, July 15, 2011
Shoe Crickets and Angry Blue Jays
My husband keeps his uniform and work boots out in the garage. We decided years ago that it was best to keep his work clothes and shoes, often exposed to some pretty dirty places and well, some pretty dirty people, away from our living space. So we set up a nice little changing area and work space for him in the garage. On a few occasions when he has spent time at a particularly gory crime scene or even a natural death, I have been glad for his foresight to avoid bringing any "evidence" into the house.
One of the "joys" of being a police family is always expecting the unexpected and not being shocked by it. Like the time I was drying a load of clothes and heard something banging around in the dryer. Expecting to find a matchbox car or a rock, I was amazed to find that it was a .45 caliber bullet that somehow missed the pocket check after a day at the range. I set the bullet on my kitchen windowsill where it still stands today as a reminder of just how different our life is. I smile even now when I think about it- it's a trophy of sorts, representative of the great thing he does each night just by going to work and the great things the boys and I do just by being supportive of such an important job.
Anyway, last night, just before he left for work, my husband comes into the kitchen to grab his keys and he's walking sort of funny with an even funnier look on his face. He tapped the toe of his boot a couple of times and then said "Man I hope there isn't a spider in my shoe." Taking his boot off he tapped it over the sink a couple of times.
Out came a cricket that started jumping wildly in the stainless steel sink!
Shoe crickets- the necessary accessory for any well dressed cop!
Another important accessory? Handcuffs of course.
Even better when they are spray painted neon pink!!!
Cops have a hard time keeping track of their stuff- one guy (or gal) cuffs a suspect, another transports him to the magistrates office, a third might escort them to the holding cells. By then no one remembers who the handcuffs actually belonged to. Police supply companies started producing them in colors to help keep track several years ago. So, my husband decides to spray paint his red. A tactically sound color that wouldn't attract attention but would identify them as his, right?
So, he pulls out all of his cuffs and hangs them like Christmas ornaments in a crepe myrtle tree on the side of the driveway. A can of red spray paint later, they hang drying in the summer sun.
Skip to six hours later. My friend Sherry pulls into the driveway for an evening of scrapbooking and stands on the door step a shocked look on her face. The first words of greeting? "Why are there handcuffs hanging from your tree?" Of course, we never gave it much thought and they had actually gone forgotten for most of the day but I can imagine the surprise a lay person might feel at seeing such yard decor!
Believe it or not, the red handcuffs have all gone missing. So we are on to bigger and better colors. This weekend the boys will help Dad spray paint the new sets a brilliant neon pink.
Again, there is no life quite like that of the police family. We are quirky, slightly more "cautious"- OK paranoid- than the average citizen and know how to expect the unexpected.
Even our pets are quirky- the dog prefers to push her mat away and sleep on the bare floor. One declawed cat scratches tirelessly against everything to no avail and another one of our rescued cats will only drink water from one bowl in one spot in the entire house. Our oldest cat likes to go outside in the morning and sit under one of the trees where a family of blue jays has made their home. Each day the parent blue jays scream and yell at her yet she just sits there, testing their tolerance. Yesterday I watched one of the blue jays swoop down and peck the cat ont he hind quarters with its beak a couple of times. The cat just sat there looking at the bird with an expression that said, "Seriously? Is that all you've got?" It was down right comical.
As life continues on each day, I read the paper and watch the news about the debt talks going on in Washington. When I think about how I manage to balance a budget of two miniscule civil service paychecks that haven't increased since the economy dropped into the toilet and the cost of everything has shot through the roof; I watch the floundering and the ego contests going on between the parties and just want to laugh.
The standoff between cuts and tax hikes, partisan arguements as old as time, is going to be the downfall of this country. We've got the president issuing threats and the house leader calling dares. And this is how they are managing our money?
I mean, seriously guys? Is that all you've got?
Why not do what the rest of us do? Stop eating at restaurants and cook a few meals at home. Try a coupon or some bargain shopping. Maybe just stop spending indiscriminantly and stop trying to outdo each other with your great ideas. Or how about live the next three years in an ecomy of constantly increasing health care costs, higher food and gas prices and no increase in wages? Make do with less. Stop bickering over details and start looking at real solutions.
Right now I am going to go and make my boys some breakfast with yogurt I got with a coupon, milk I got for free and cereal I managed to purchase on sale AND with a coupon. Later, I might take them to the park where they can have a good time for absolutely no expenditure on my part and then we will eat cheesburgers on the grill and vegetables from the garden for dinner. While I wash the dishes I will look at my little .45 caliber trophy on the window sill, smile and thank the good Lord that both my husband and I are still employed and pray that those in Washington will finally figure out that there is more to life than having your own way all the time.
One of the "joys" of being a police family is always expecting the unexpected and not being shocked by it. Like the time I was drying a load of clothes and heard something banging around in the dryer. Expecting to find a matchbox car or a rock, I was amazed to find that it was a .45 caliber bullet that somehow missed the pocket check after a day at the range. I set the bullet on my kitchen windowsill where it still stands today as a reminder of just how different our life is. I smile even now when I think about it- it's a trophy of sorts, representative of the great thing he does each night just by going to work and the great things the boys and I do just by being supportive of such an important job.
Anyway, last night, just before he left for work, my husband comes into the kitchen to grab his keys and he's walking sort of funny with an even funnier look on his face. He tapped the toe of his boot a couple of times and then said "Man I hope there isn't a spider in my shoe." Taking his boot off he tapped it over the sink a couple of times.
Out came a cricket that started jumping wildly in the stainless steel sink!
Shoe crickets- the necessary accessory for any well dressed cop!
Another important accessory? Handcuffs of course.
Even better when they are spray painted neon pink!!!
Cops have a hard time keeping track of their stuff- one guy (or gal) cuffs a suspect, another transports him to the magistrates office, a third might escort them to the holding cells. By then no one remembers who the handcuffs actually belonged to. Police supply companies started producing them in colors to help keep track several years ago. So, my husband decides to spray paint his red. A tactically sound color that wouldn't attract attention but would identify them as his, right?
So, he pulls out all of his cuffs and hangs them like Christmas ornaments in a crepe myrtle tree on the side of the driveway. A can of red spray paint later, they hang drying in the summer sun.
Skip to six hours later. My friend Sherry pulls into the driveway for an evening of scrapbooking and stands on the door step a shocked look on her face. The first words of greeting? "Why are there handcuffs hanging from your tree?" Of course, we never gave it much thought and they had actually gone forgotten for most of the day but I can imagine the surprise a lay person might feel at seeing such yard decor!
Believe it or not, the red handcuffs have all gone missing. So we are on to bigger and better colors. This weekend the boys will help Dad spray paint the new sets a brilliant neon pink.
Again, there is no life quite like that of the police family. We are quirky, slightly more "cautious"- OK paranoid- than the average citizen and know how to expect the unexpected.
Even our pets are quirky- the dog prefers to push her mat away and sleep on the bare floor. One declawed cat scratches tirelessly against everything to no avail and another one of our rescued cats will only drink water from one bowl in one spot in the entire house. Our oldest cat likes to go outside in the morning and sit under one of the trees where a family of blue jays has made their home. Each day the parent blue jays scream and yell at her yet she just sits there, testing their tolerance. Yesterday I watched one of the blue jays swoop down and peck the cat ont he hind quarters with its beak a couple of times. The cat just sat there looking at the bird with an expression that said, "Seriously? Is that all you've got?" It was down right comical.
As life continues on each day, I read the paper and watch the news about the debt talks going on in Washington. When I think about how I manage to balance a budget of two miniscule civil service paychecks that haven't increased since the economy dropped into the toilet and the cost of everything has shot through the roof; I watch the floundering and the ego contests going on between the parties and just want to laugh.
The standoff between cuts and tax hikes, partisan arguements as old as time, is going to be the downfall of this country. We've got the president issuing threats and the house leader calling dares. And this is how they are managing our money?
I mean, seriously guys? Is that all you've got?
Why not do what the rest of us do? Stop eating at restaurants and cook a few meals at home. Try a coupon or some bargain shopping. Maybe just stop spending indiscriminantly and stop trying to outdo each other with your great ideas. Or how about live the next three years in an ecomy of constantly increasing health care costs, higher food and gas prices and no increase in wages? Make do with less. Stop bickering over details and start looking at real solutions.
Right now I am going to go and make my boys some breakfast with yogurt I got with a coupon, milk I got for free and cereal I managed to purchase on sale AND with a coupon. Later, I might take them to the park where they can have a good time for absolutely no expenditure on my part and then we will eat cheesburgers on the grill and vegetables from the garden for dinner. While I wash the dishes I will look at my little .45 caliber trophy on the window sill, smile and thank the good Lord that both my husband and I are still employed and pray that those in Washington will finally figure out that there is more to life than having your own way all the time.
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